Thinking Outside of the Box
Welcome to Thinking Outside of the Box with a Pastor. In this blog we explore some important biblical issues based on Scriptural Truth.
Saturday, August 9, 2014
Where Do I Stand?
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
The Top 6 Mistakes Pastors Make
12. Not taking myself seriously enough. Not many in ministry have much of a problem with this one. :)
11. Not having a hobby. I was concerned this one would rank higher. I was pleased to see it does not. Unfortunately, I struggle in this area.
10. Taking myself too seriously. Interesting to see that self does not rank highly among those who were polled.
9. False assumptions. I cannot tell you how many times this one has gotten me into trouble.
8. Setting wrong goals. I heard Tommy Tenney say once that many times we find ourselves racing toward false finish lines.
7. Paying too much attention to money. It can be very easy as a pastor to view yourself as a hireling and get focused on what you do or do not make in your job. This trap is often bigger than many realize or care to admit.
Some feedback comments:
This was "difficult to do. None of these are good. Most are 'little sins' that would be easily overlooked."
"Working too many hours during the week and not giving enough time to sleep and body recharging."
"Majoring in minors. Failure to delegate."
"Letting my personal experiences as a church kid define what I would and wouldn't do as a pastor."
"Not understanding how to motivate people is my frustration."
"Being sloppy or inconsistent."
"Allowing other folk's opinions to define me."
Now we get to the top six responses. I realize this list of twelve is not all inclusive. Some things that we do wrong we would never want to see on a survey and have to admit to doing. :) Nonetheless, I feel this gives a nice snapshot of what goes on in the hearts and lives of ministers.
6. Putting unfair expectations on others.
I have come to realize that while I will always have wishes, hopes and desires for others, I only have the right to put expectations on myself. I do not ever want people to feel like they cannot live up to what I expect. Instead I want them to understand and realize their potential. Expectations is about the here and now, but hopes and desires is about the future and where a person is going. As a leader, it is my privilege to help people realize their potential and begin to expect more of themselves. When I get that wrong, and place unrealistic expectations on them, I find the effectiveness diminishes greatly. And the person often resists or pulls away. Expectations focus on efficiency. Hopes and desires focus on effectiveness. People need my effectiveness with them more than my efficiency with them.
5. Giving place to a competitive spirit or attitude.
We wrestle not against flesh and blood. However, we are supposed to wrestle in harmony with flesh and blood against the kingdom of darkness. A minister friend of mine told me about a gentlemen in his general area who was beginning a new church. He decided it was a good idea to call the existing church and say, "You've got competition!" How ludicrous. There is no place for that in the Kingdom of God.
This attitude and desires stems from such a strong focus on numbers and results, and it does nothing but feed the natural man's ego. In a cutthroat, competitive world, Jesus would be only an average leader for having only discipled twelve men - especially when you consider one of them sold Him out. We base our success on what we do. However, in God our success is based on who we are in Him. When I do my part to exalt Jesus, and you do your part to exalt Him, we are both successful. Neither is more nor less. I should never want to succeed more than you. I should desire to succeed with you.
4. Poor time management.
I probably do not have time to address this one. :) Much of my problem in this area is devoting too much time to the unimportant and not enough time to the important. Or, I can swing completely the other way and get so bogged down with tasks that I fail to give myself place and time for fun. I often heard it said that what gets prioritized gets accomplished. Although my weekly to-do list never gets completely checked off, there are things each week that always get done because of the priority they are given.
I had a friend once who said that on his to-do list he always puts, "Go to the bathroom." That way he knows that at least one thing per day will be checked off his list. An ongoing frustration in ministry can be that so many of the things we do are not able to be checked off a list. Many of them have no true end, but serve as an ongoing reminder of our calling. The organized and efficient side to us can get bogged down in that respect, causing us to simply let things go undone.
3. Allowing ministry to define me.
I said before and will say again. We are not defined by what we do, we are defined by who we are. The problem is that this is a hard pill to swallow. I have had to learn, relearn, and learn again the importance of putting my relationship with God above my results for God. Before I am a minister, I am a human being and a man of God. I have to realize that in my humanity, within the context of who He has made me to be, He is able to reveal His divinity. The danger I find in allowing ministry to define me is that I find myself trying to do it all on my own and in my own strength. It then begins to shift from a call to minister to a self-imposed call to be ministry. In other words, I can quickly develop a Messiah complex by thinking the Kingdom rests upon my shoulders, and if I do not do enough in ministry hell will win.
Jesus already defeated every bit of that struggle. I do not have to be shaped by my service, He has shaped me for His service.
2. Not spending enough time with family.
I was riveted by the words I once heard from a very successful, extremely recognizable pastor. He said that when his son was about to graduate high school he asked him what he wanted from his parents as a gift. His son said, "I don't care, pastor, whatever you think." The dad quickly said, "Don't call me pastor. I am your dad." To that the son replied, "I am sorry. I only know you as pastor."
If that happens to me I have missed the point. My son told me recently that it is hard to be a pastor's kid. He is only five. It served as both a reminder and a wake up call to me concerning the dangers of getting too wrapped up in what we do. I mentioned earlier that before I am a minister I am a man of God. Just behind that I am a husband and a dad. Both of those relational roles must take priority over my occupational role as a minister. Paul tells Pastor Timothy that if anyone does not provide for or take care of his own household he is worse than an unbeliever (1 Timothy 5:8). While I realize that is within the context of teaching widows, I cannot deny the application to my own life.
Pastors, let us be honest for a moment. Regardless of what city or cities God calls you in which to pastor there will always be one common denominator. Your family will be there with you. When you turn the lights off at any church for the last time, make sure your spouse and children are still as strong by your side as they ever have been.
1. Putting my service for God ahead of my relationship with God.
There is a statement by Jesus in Matthew that has riveted me for years. He says that many will declare all the great things they have done for Him, yet He will respond by saying, "I never knew you" (Matthew 7:22-23). The danger of that becoming reality is much greater than we might realize. Our work for God can become so much of a higher priority than our own relationship. And it can happen so very quickly. I cannot tell you how many times I have justified reading the Bible for sermon preparation as being usable as my own personal time of devotions and study. I cannot tell you how many times I have justified that time spent praying for needs and people made me a person of prayer. The pitfall here is very real.
The disillusion sets in quickly and you can find yourself riding the swings of ministry rather than being stable as a man or woman of God. I personally hit a wall in this area when it seemed my entire Christianity came crashing down around me. It was based on my perception of failure in what I was doing for God. I felt abandoned and betrayed and it was all because my safety net of service was removed and there was nothing on which to land. In that time of despair and confusion, the Lord reached out to me and brought me back into a place of personal intimacy and relationship with Him. He did so with a simple question of "do you trust Me?" He wasn't asking me to trust Him for ministry. He was asking me to trust Him in my life as my personal Lord. He was asking me to trust Him in relationship with Him and allow that to define me and become more valuable than anything I ever did or could do for Him.
As a result I find myself in a place today where I minister out of a relationship with Him rather than trying to establish a relationship with Him by or through ministry. The shift has been dramatic and for me personally it has been awesome. I still wrestle with this slippery slope, but I am able to recognize it more quickly now. I do not want to go back to that place again.
Easier Said than Done
Ministry is not for the faint of heart. There are battles and challenges at every turn. Some of the battles are obviously external. Many, however, are internal and ones we would prefer to keep hidden from view. I honor and appreciate the ministers who honestly ranked these mistakes and battles. I have to admit it was difficult for me personally to honestly rank these areas. I often pride myself of having it all together, when I obviously do not. Yet I am reminded that I do not have to have it all together. I simply must be honest, real, and who I am in Him.
Remember, pastors and ministers, God is not afraid of your mistakes. God does not strike you down for them either. He is not in pursuit of your hand, your intellect or you ability. He is aggressively after your heart. When He has that all things work together for good in Him.
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
I Am Sorry for Being Pentecostal
Friday, May 2, 2014
My Ministry Mistakes
Time for some transparency. I have made so many mistakes in ministry since starting in 1997. I thought I would outline what I consider my biggest ones in this blog. This is not an all -nclusive list as there are years of ministry still ahead. Neither is this list in any particular order. I simply felt prompted to share these with you.
1. I have been guilty of trying to have ministry establish my personal relationship with Christ. Can never happen. It is much better to minister out of your relationship with Christ.
2. I have viewed people and tasks in the same way. Not healthy. Tasks deserve efficiency. People deserve effectiveness.
3. I have treated everyone the same. I have learned the way I communicate with someone needs to be adapted based on my relationship with them.
4. I have forgotten that everyone is the apple of God's eye, and the pride and joy of their parents. I really blew this one in youth ministry.
5. I have taken on a Messiah complex. My job is to lead people to the Savior, not be their savior.
6. I have ministered out of preconceived ideas instead of God's Word.
7. I have assumed my own greatness and not been teachable. Not being teachable renders me unable to teach.
8. I have done ministry without God's involvement. At times I didn't even check with Him at all.
9. I have viewed people as enemies instead of allies.
10. I have burned bridges with my words and actions that had taken blood, sweat and tears to build.
11. I have taken myself way too seriously.
12. I have underestimated myself.
13. I have given more attention to the kingdom of darkness than I have to the Kingdom of God.
14. I have forced my agenda while calling it vision.
I am sure this list will grow. For now I will stop. Hopefully my mistakes will help someone.
Tuesday, April 22, 2014
Do We Work?
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
Is this Revival or . . .?
Levels of a Move of God
Joel 2:12 Therefore also now, saith the LORD, turn ye even to me with all your heart, and with fasting, and with weeping, and with mourning: 13 And rend your heart, and not your garments, and turn unto the LORD your God: for he is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and of great kindness, and repenteth him of the evil. 14 Who knoweth if he will return and repent, and leave a blessing behind him; even a meat offering and a drink offering unto the LORD your God? 15 Blow the trumpet in Zion, sanctify a fast, call a solemn assembly: 16 Gather the people, sanctify the congregation, assemble the elders, gather the children, and those that suck the breasts: let the bridegroom go forth of his chamber, and the bride out of her closet. 17 Let the priests, the ministers of the LORD, weep between the porch and the altar, and let them say, Spare thy people, O LORD, and give not thine heritage to reproach, that the heathen should rule over them: wherefore should they say among the people, Where is their God? 18 Then will the LORD be jealous for his land, and pity his people. 19 Yea, the LORD will answer and say unto his people, Behold, I will send you corn, and wine, and oil, and ye shall be satisfied therewith: and I will no more make you a reproach among the heathen: 20 But I will remove far off from you the northern army, and will drive him into a land barren and desolate, with his face toward the east sea, and his hinder part toward the utmost sea, and his stink shall come up, and his ill savour shall come up, because he hath done great things. 21 Fear not, O land; be glad and rejoice: for the LORD will do great things. 22 Be not afraid, ye beasts of the field: for the pastures of the wilderness do spring, for the tree beareth her fruit, the fig tree and the vine do yield their strength. 23 Be glad then, ye children of Zion, and rejoice in the LORD your God: for he hath given you the former rain moderately, and he will cause to come down for you the rain, the former rain, and the latter rain in the first month. 24 And the floors shall be full of wheat, and the vats shall overflow with wine and oil. 25 And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you. 26 And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the LORD your God, that hath dealt wondrously with you: and my people shall never be ashamed. 27 And ye shall know that I am in the midst of Israel, and that I am the LORD your God, and none else: and my people shall never be ashamed. 28 And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions: 29 And also upon the servants and upon the handmaids in those days will I pour out my spirit. 30 And I will shew wonders in the heavens and in the earth, blood, and fire, and pillars of smoke. 31 The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before the great and terrible day of the LORD come. 32 And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the LORD shall be delivered: for in mount Zion and in Jerusalem shall be deliverance, as the LORD hath said, and in the remnant whom the LORD shall call.
IT IS VITALLY IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT SIGNIFICANT THINGS FROM GOD ARE PRECEDED BY PRAYER, REPENTANCE, HUNGER AND RELIANCE UPON HIM. YES, GOD IS SOVEREIGN AND CAN DO WHAT HE WANTS WHEN HE WANTS. YET, THERE IS A “FORMULA” FOR PREPARING THE GROUND OR ATMOSPHERE.
If you create an atmosphere, it develops a climate. If you establish a climate, it develops a culture.
Please note that verse 14 indicates that in no way can we ever twist God’s arm or force Him to respond.
Therefore also now, saith the LORD, turn ye even to me with all your heart, and with fasting, and with weeping, and with mourning: 13 And rend your heart, and not your garments, and turn unto the LORD your God: for he is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and of great kindness, and repenteth him of the evil. 14 Who knoweth if he will return and repent, and leave a blessing behind him; even a meat offering and a drink offering unto the LORD your God? 15 Blow the trumpet in Zion, sanctify a fast, call a solemn assembly: 16 Gather the people, sanctify the congregation, assemble the elders, gather the children, and those that suck the breasts: let the bridegroom go forth of his chamber, and the bride out of her closet. 17 Let the priests, the ministers of the LORD, weep between the porch and the altar, and let them say, Spare thy people, O LORD, and give not thine heritage to reproach, that the heathen should rule over them: wherefore should they say among the people, Where is their God?
This preparation sets the stage for a potential move of God. Following this preparation instruction is an outline of 4 levels of a move of God.
1. Refreshing
18 Then will the LORD be jealous for his land, and pity his people. 19 Yea, the LORD will answer and say unto his people, Behold, I will send you corn, and wine, and oil, and ye shall be satisfied therewith: and I will no more make you a reproach among the heathen: 20 But I will remove far off from you the northern army, and will drive him into a land barren and desolate, with his face toward the east sea, and his hinder part toward the utmost sea, and his stink shall come up, and his ill savour shall come up, because he hath done great things. 21 Fear not, O land; be glad and rejoice: for the LORD will do great things. 22 Be not afraid, ye beasts of the field: for the pastures of the wilderness do spring, for the tree beareth her fruit, the fig tree and the vine do yield their strength. 23 Be glad then, ye children of Zion, and rejoice in the LORD your God: for he hath given you the former rain moderately, and he will cause to come down for you the rain, the former rain, and the latter rain in the first month. 24 And the floors shall be full of wheat, and the vats shall overflow with wine and oil.
Stage one is refreshing and this is addressed to and for God’s people.
This involves a time of blessing and increase to remind God’s people who they are and that He is truly their God.
The Lord fights against the enemy of His people and gives His people rest and refreshing.
Acts 3:19 Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord.
God refreshes His people and brings them to a place of rejoicing instead of fear – rejoicing because there is a knowing that He is doing and will continue to do great things.
Anticipation begins to build in this stage as God’s people begin to realize there is more to come.
There is a promise of an overflowing and abundance. Hunger is not satisfied but sparked and intensified.
2. Renewal and Restoration
25 And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you. 26 And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the LORD your God, that hath dealt wondrously with you: and my people shall never be ashamed. 27 And ye shall know that I am in the midst of Israel, and that I am the LORD your God, and none else: and my people shall never be ashamed.
Stage 2 gets into renewal and restoration. Not only do God’s people walk in the blessing of His refreshing, they now begin to see lost ground reclaimed.
This transition brings a keen awareness and realization that God is in the midst of His people.
God brings a real satisfaction in His provision.
Whereas we may not have all that we “want” we are content and pleased in what God has given.
We will live in praise and thanksgiving, honoring the Lord above our own selves and selfish desires.
The people of God will not lack or be ashamed.
It is in this time when people will begin to take notice of what God has done and is doing in your life.
Acts 4:13 Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marvelled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had been with Jesus.
3. Revival
28 And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions: 29 And also upon the servants and upon the handmaids in those days will I pour out my spirit. 30 And I will shew wonders in the heavens and in the earth, blood, and fire, and pillars of smoke. 31 The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before the great and terrible day of the LORD come.
This brings us to stage 3 which is revival. This is when what God is doing begins to really go beyond the people of God.
Revival becomes multi-dimensional, multi-generational, multi-everything.
God in this place is pouring out His Spirit upon all people and not just the people of or within the church.
“Sons and daughters” is at once a reference to natural children as well as a reference to spiritual children.
This place or stage denotes an increase of the Kingdom of God through salvation.
From a historical standpoint, anything that has been or can be labeled “revival” has ALWAYS been marked by an increase in salvations and the number of people being ministered to by the Spirit of God.
This also involves an increase in the signs and wonders of God in and through His people and those who have been and are being saved.
Revival involves a quicker maturing and usefulness by the believers.
Acts 19:8 And he went into the synagogue, and spake boldly for the space of three months, disputing and persuading the things concerning the kingdom of God. 9 But when divers were hardened, and believed not, but spake evil of that way before the multitude, he departed from them, and separated the disciples, disputing daily in the school of one Tyrannus. 10 And this continued by the space of two years; so that all they which dwelt in Asia heard the word of the Lord Jesus, both Jews and Greeks. 11 And God wrought special miracles by the hands of Paul: 12 So that from his body were brought unto the sick handkerchiefs or aprons, and the diseases departed from them, and the evil spirits went out of them.
4. Awakening
32 And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the LORD shall be delivered: for in mount Zion and in Jerusalem shall be deliverance, as the LORD hath said, and in the remnant whom the LORD shall call.
The fourth stage I see is awakening.
This occurs when what God is doing goes beyond any one location and has national and worldly impact.
Very seldom does something reach this level, often because flesh, fatigue, frustration or fighting get in the way of what God is doing.
This is the extent of what God WILL DO on His own accord in the last days prior to His return.
In acts 19 (listed above) we find that all they which dwelt in Asia heard the word of the Lord Jesus. This was the early hint of an awakening.
After this took place, the 7 sons of Sceva were humiliated by an evil spirit and God’s Word grew in even greater ways. The revival was deepening and the awakening was in sight.
Acts 19:21 After these things were ended, Paul purposed in the spirit, when he had passed through Macedonia and Achaia, to go to Jerusalem, saying, After I have been there, I must also see Rome. 22 So he sent into Macedonia two of them that ministered unto him, Timotheus and Erastus; but he himself stayed in Asia for a season.23 And the same time there arose no small stir about that way. 24 For a certain man named Demetrius, a silversmith, which made silver shrines for Diana, brought no small gain unto the craftsmen; 25 Whom he called together with the workmen of like occupation, and said, Sirs, ye know that by this craft we have our wealth. 26 Moreover ye see and hear, that not alone at Ephesus, but almost throughout all Asia, this Paul hath persuaded and turned away much people, saying that they be no gods, which are made with hands: 27 So that not only this our craft is in danger to be set at nought; but also that the temple of the great goddess Diana should be despised, and her magnificence should be destroyed, whom all Asia and the world worshippeth. 28 And when they heard these sayings, they were full of wrath, and cried out, saying, Great is Diana of the Ephesians.
Each stage in the process is more powerful and wonderful than the previous one. However, many settle for or never move beyond refreshing.